I heart Oregon.

I think it’s finally starting to hit me that we’re moving soon.  Don’t get me wrong, I am about 90% super excited about it.  But I’m starting to have the realization that the other 10% is really not so excited, it’s actually pretty nervous and sad.  Not to sound like a horrible person, but it’s not the idea of leaving people that I’m sad about – don’t get me wrong, there are a lot of people here that I care about and will miss, but I’ve moved around a lot in my life and know that even though I can’t see people face to face anymore, it doesn’t mean my relationships end.  I still have so much love in my heart for friends and family I haven’t seen in weeks, days, and years.  I also know that there will also be amazing people wherever I go.  Relationships are something I can take with me.  But I’m feeling sad about some of the things that I can’t.

My private practice.  Having a practice of my own was the end goal, the dream job.  To think that I did it in my twenties is crazy to me!  I’m not sure I can describe what it feels like to take absolutely nothing and create a living for yourself.  It’s pretty awesome.  And I love working with couples.  It is tough, but not the “I hate my job” kind of tough, it’s the “I’m doing an incredibly hard but awesome thing” tough.

Food.  One of my favorite things about exploring new places is finding delicious places to eat, and Portland of course has not let me down.  Waffle Window, Por que no tacos, Screen Door, Salt&Straw, Mother’s (yes I know, Portlandia snobs, that these are cliche places but theres a reason they are cliche – they’re DELICIOUS).  Also I’m really trying hard not to think about how I won’t be able to have a Burgerville Chocolate Hazelnut shake next January.

Donuts.  Yes, they deserve a category all on their own.  If you want a donut, fly to Portland now.  Don’t discriminate.  There is not such thing as a bad donut.  There is such a thing as a not good donut, but not a bad one.

Nature.  I’m no tree hugger.  Chop those babies up and build some apartments if it means my rent will go down. (K, I really did get mad when they chopped the trees down in front of my house, but I think they put something in the water here.  It also makes you want to buy a Prius).  I really do love the green and the mountains here, though.  And Oregon really has some of the most beautiful sunsets.

Roses.  Also deserve their own category.  I absolutely loved growing roses in my garden in our house.  They are tricky and require special care, but at the same time are super easy to grow here.  And the Rose Garden here has to be one of my favorite places on earth.  It also smells like heaven.

The weather.  Wait, what am I saying?  This summer has been sooo HOT – for Portland. Which means a mere 24 days in the 90s.  And it barely rained this winter!  Also the world stops when it even sort-of snows, which I love.  Even though I was terrified of moving to this rainy place, I will admit that Oregon is wonderfully mild.

Trips to Seattle, Vancouver, the coast, the mountains. Some of my favorite memories of living here are actually getting away from here.

Sadly I probably won’t even realize everything I’ll miss until its gone.  I’m going to try to savor it all for the next few months and trust that soon I’ll have a long list of things I love about Florida.

1398003_10101106449069169_362530356_o 10428532_10101759073793989_3083902728812275421_n 10436337_10101726185332729_5476810319855426687_n 11008766_10101942245241939_4060400767512963678_n 11082473_10101907011800039_2661513458966039089_n 11845147_10102137977862199_8580431670952458183_o


Going public!

I’ve decided to open the blog up to the public!  Why?  Because other blogs have been lifesavers for me in learning about military life and feeling connected to a military community while living far far away from any real in the flesh Navy wives.  I hope that this blog is helpful to anyone going through the Navy/OCS/military wife experience.  I’m pretty dang new at this myself but I’ll continue to share what I learn as I go along.  Feel free to comment with any suggestions or questions, or email us at flyingwiththenavy@gmail.com!

It’s all over folks

DSC_0121 copy 2

Actually what I really mean is -it’s just begun.  D is now an officer in the United States Navy!  I had such a wonderful time in Rhode Island for his graduation and am so incredibly proud of him!   The weekend was great, I’m really glad I got to stay on base so I got to see D during the bits and spurts of his ever-changing schedule.  I arrived Wednesday and we were able to go to a local baseball game together – our first date in 3 months!  Thursday morning I had a class for new spouses and it was great getting to know some of the fellow wives/girlfriends.  D’s parents and nephews arrived that afternoon and we had a reception at the Officer’s club where I got to meet some more of D’s classmates and their families, his class officers, and his drill intructor.  Super early on Friday morning we got to watch a demonstration of their PT workouts and then his commissioning ceremony was in the afternoon. Luckily the ceremony wasn’t too long since we were sweltering in the heat, and I’m also thankful I had my Mary Poppins bag packed with an umbrella for shade, a small fan, water bottles, binoculars, camera with telephoto lens, sunglasses, and even yes, a selfie stick.  We had a great time exploring Newport and Boston, sailboating, and eating lots of ice cream with D’s family.

We were pretty stoked to come home to Portland, but let me tell you – reintegration: the struggle is real.  We have been stuffing ourselves with all sorts of yummy food and spending lots of time together, but it is no easy task going from living on your own to living with a man again (it is also no easy task going from living in military barracks to regular life with your spouse).  Oh and thanks Portland for the 100 degree weather, that always makes everything easier.  D has to cook his own food again.  No one is telling him what to do with his many hours of freedom.  I emote on a regular basis, something not allowed at OCS. There is a mess in the house that did not come from me.    And at the same time, someone neatly makes the bed every morning.  WEIRD.  Things are starting to feel normal again, but it is also just crazy that we’re actually in the military.  Sure, D joined the Navy months ago, but up until him coming home my life hasn’t changed too much other than him being gone.  Now it’s for real.  I have a military ID.  My husband puts on camouflage and combat boots every morning before he goes to work.  I have to figure out the hundreds of different systems it takes to complete a single task (like scheduling a move) when the government is in charge.  And in a few short months I will pack away my stuff, my business, and start the next decade of going where the Navy tells us to go and doing what the Navy tells us to do.  And honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

DSC_0118copy DSC_0108copy DSC_0100 DSC_0102 DSC_0094copy DSC_0088 DSC_0082 DSC_0069 DSC_0064 DSC_0039 DSC_0036 DSC_0038 DSC_0035 DSC_0030

Tomorrow, you’re only a day away

I can’t believe it, but it’s finally here!  I can barely focus on anything this week – it definitely feels like its been the longest one yet. I did get to see the BlueAngels lots these last few days, which was pretty awesome but made me miss D even more.  Luckily we’ll get to see their show a gazillion times while in Pensacola.  I could not be more excited to get on a plane tomorrow for graduation!  I’m grateful to everyone who’s supported us over the last few months – we are sooo excited to be reunited and I am so incredibly proud of D.  Next time I post, he will be an officer in the United States Navy!  Insane!!!!

FullSizeRender_1 FullSizeRender IMG_7491 IMG_7510

Happy birthday America!

The 4th of July has always been one of my favorite holidays!  I love blueberry pancakes and waffles, parades, fireworks, and seeing everyone’s patriotism!  It has also been one of my favorite holidays to celebrate with D.  Our very first Independence day we camped out overnight for the parade, decorated our bikes with streamers, ate delicious food and watched the fireworks at Stadium of Fire from my friends roof. Oh yeah, and also said those three little (aka GINORMOUS) words for the first time.  I remember it as pretty much a perfect day.  I was not looking forward to spending our first Independence day apart, but I ended up having a great time celebrating with my parents!  We of course made tons of yummy food, went swimming, and played games.  We were bummed that their usual neighborhood firework show didn’t happen, but went searching and got to see a few simultaneous shows from a hill by their house.

D is having a great time so far working with the new indocs!  He was actually worried about having to be mean, but is kind of enjoying it! (I told him to get it out of his system before he comes home 🙂 ) This week they had their capstone, a day of leadership training.  D said they had to lead people through minefields, attempt to save a sinking ship, carry each other after they’d been “killed,”  and jump off the high dive and swim around in the dark with smoke and make sure everyone was accounted for.  I’m sure his description sounded a lot cooler than my recap version, but he did say it was lots of fun and you can see below the smiles on everyone’s faces during their victory run!

My favorite part of this week has been getting to talk on the phone and text every day, we even got to FaceTime on Sunday!  It feels so nice to be able to be a more regular part of each other’s days again.  I can’t believe how close we are to graduation, we are SOOOO excited to see each other in 2 weeks!

Here’s my 4th of July pics through the years!  Unfortunately I didn’t take one in 2012.10330470_10101486151966519_8694633699054602311_nFullSizeRender-9FullSizeRender-8FullSizeRender-7 IMG_7143

In case your bored on these hot summer days,  I thought I’d let you find D in this weeks pics! 11217983_777133465737396_6864713020768040305_o 11708006_777133572404052_5285577622840121396_o 11722308_777133669070709_8345573617894858590_o

Smooth sailing (pun intended) from now on

D has passed all of his tests and inspections and will become a candidate officer this week!  We kept laughing every time he took a test or quiz because he got a score of 90 on every single one right up until his last test, where he rocked it with a 98.  We are soooo excited to be so close!!!  This week will be pretty chill for D, he has a CPR class today and a few briefs, Wednesday they have a capstone class and they have Friday off for the holiday.  After his capstone, he’ll be a Candio meaning he gets his phone back, can eat when and what he wants, can do PT on his own, gets some on base and off base liberty, and (he’s super excited about this) gets to drive people to med appointments in an awesome minivan on Thursday lol.  They get assigned a new job for Candio phase and D was assigned to indoc staff, meaning next week they’ll be helping (aka lots of yelling at) the newest indoctrination class with all of their tests and inspections and events.  He’ll be pretty busy at least that first week but have much more freedom.   I cannot even begin to tell you how excited I am.  Yesterday I ended up on Pinterest looking at pictures and videos from military homecomings and bawled like a baby. (Don’t worry I was also productive, I’m super stoked I was finally able to book a hotel on base, saving us about $500).  We’ve had another crazy heat wave here and I’ve been working hard not to melt in my apartment!  I love having a pool again, although I’m a ‘if I go to the pool I want to be there all day’ type of person so I haven’t gone as much as I should with this heat.  I told D I want to be tan when I see him, but he said only if I can match the crazy farmer’s tan he’ll have from his uniforms.  I can’t believe we get to see each other so soon!

These are the packages I sent to D, their a tradition called Candio boxes, he gets to open them on Wednesday! They were full of lots of his favorite candies, snacks, chapstick, gum, magazines, homemade cookies, and of course a tiny Navy Hot Wings plane (and per request, Top Gun).

FullSizeRender-5 FullSizeRender-6

Here’s their final PT test, D maxed on his situps and pushups and got an outstanding on his run.  Next week he’ll be helping out like the ones in the green and red shirts.10982250_773938686056874_3343869783337025046_o

D is standing in the back line, second from the right11700680_773938666056876_7087954093672569569_o D is in the furthest line to the right, fourth from the back.  Oh and his roommate is behind the middle guy holding the two fingers up!11334162_773938542723555_2350707973979315950_o

At least I get to see half his face in uniform –  kinda looks like he’s sleeping in this one.


He’s not in this one, but here they are all lined up for their inspection.  They actually have one more inspection for their dress whites, but they perform it on each other and it’s not a rollable event.11225423_773938936056849_7599956324362540309_o

I’m getting on a plane in less than a month!

I’m so excited for how close we are getting!  This is D’s last week of “rollable” events – he has another inspection Tuesday, another physical fitness assessment, and two finals in Naval Operations and Seamanship and Navigation.  After D passes all those things, it will be smooth sailing to graduation.  Next week, after the class before him graduates, he’ll be considered a candidate officer (or candio) which means a CELL PHONE!!! The candio phase is the leadership portion of OCS, he’ll spend a lot of time helping the new classes and he’ll have a job that he’s responsible for, but he’ll get to workout on his own time, eat on his own (and eat what he wants) and eventually get off base liberty – basically a lot more freedom.  I can’t believe that it’s coming NEXT WEEK!  I know this week will be super stressful for D, so extra prayers are appreciated.

As for me, I had an awesome week this last week visiting family in New Mexico!  I had such a great time hiking, swimming, and shopping with my sisters and a blast playing with my nieces and nephews.  I’m so grateful that they invited me, it was so nice to get away and I had such a great time!

IMG_6875IMG_6952IMG_6953IMG_6954 image1 IMG_6876 IMG_6886 IMG_6887

Here’s some pictures of D from his 6th week inspection.

It’s kind of sad when you start considering this a good picture of your husband – yes, that’s the top of his head coming out of the officer’s hat.10842197_767041586746584_5910313766313679909_o

And a portion of his face to the right of the hat this time haha!


Love this man.

11419319_767041530079923_4861261598377105680_o copy2

It’s downhill from here!

We’ve officially made it halfway!  I get to see D in LESS than 6 weeks!  And in 3 weeks, he’ll get his phone back woohoooo!  I am so excited to be on the other side of the hill and am really proud of how we’ve been doing this last few months.  I wanted to jot a few thoughts down of what it’s been like for me so far.  I think somewhere down the road I may want to publicize this blog because I know reading other navy blogs was super helpful for me in preparing for OCS, so I wanted to  keep track of just a few of the things that have been helpful for me to not only survive, but thrive in these last six weeks.

1.  Having a list of things to keep me busy – I started making this list of things way before D left.  I was worried about what I would do with my time since we do a LOT together and I have barely crossed two or three things off the list because I’ve been so busy – I’ve learned that no matter how much time you have, there’s still not enough time in the day to do everything!
2.  Making an effort to strengthen my faith each day – I know this has been the most helpful thing I’ve done.  I’ve been attending the temple weekly and praying, fasting, and reading my scriptures much more than I did before D left.  I’ve definitely been strengthened by the Lord through this, and it helps keep these teeny few weeks in an eternal perspective.
3. Having a routine way to connect with D – Writing him a letter every night before I go to bed has been really helpful in wrapping up my day and helping me to feel close to him.  I try to be encouraging in my letters, so it helps me to focus on the positive as well.  I also keep notes throughout the days of things that I want to tell him about in my letters or emails.
4. Taking good care of myself physically – Sure I haven’t eaten quite as good as I did when my paleo husband was here to feed, but I also haven’t gone crazy.  I have been exercising consistently, doing lots of yoga, and have also allowed myself to just sleep when I’m tired!
5. Spending time with family and friends.  I was bummed we had to move right before D left, but its been fun making new friends in addition to catching up with old ones. I’m also grateful to have my parents nearby to spend holidays with and get extra kitty snuggles!  I have also loved connecting with the wives/girlfriends of D’s classmates on facebook and am so excited to meet them in July!

Someone told me before D left that every time their husband went away for business, she laid on the floor and cried the entire time he was gone.  Besides the fact that that really isn’t sustainable for three months as I’m sure I would die of dehydration, that’s just not me.  I’m at a point in my life I don’t want to be unhappy, no matter what my circumstances.  This is for sure a challenge, but it’s also one that we chose, which makes it a heck of a lot easier to deal with than some of the trials we’ve been through that we didn’t want to go through.  There’s definitely been times during the last 6 weeks that have really sucked, but I don’t think it means I love my husband any less because I can be okay without him.  It also doesn’t make me any better than those who really struggle when their husbands are gone.  I know this is just the first of many separations during D’s military career, and I’m sure they’re all going to be beasts of their own.  But I’m working really hard to enjoy myself rather than be miserable.  And that’s not going to make our reunion in approximately 40 days and 19 hrs any less sweeter!!!

And one thing I did cross off my list this week – I ran a mile!  Not such exciting news for a runner, but for someone who hasn’t run in 15 years, I was incredibly proud of myself!


Drill Competition

Here’s some pics from D’s drill competition last week – they scored a 91, which is the highest score they’ve had at OCS in over a year!  They earned a streamer, meaning they need three more to become an honor class.  D was soooooo excited to be done with drill and turn in his rifle.  This week they have another inspection (not as crazy as 3rd week RLP, but still another checkpoint to pass) and two more finals. We are so close to being halfway done!

D is 7th from the left in the front row11406279_764100987040644_6178121625351042978_o

3rd from the left – D hated being in the front row but it made it great for pictures!10003662_764100810373995_5483582381989830485_o

D is just to the right of the drill instructor facing the camera10495065_764100763707333_1845548743153949383_o

7th from the front on the right11406166_764100937040649_6173676872432172721_o

You can see half his face in this one – when you haven’t seen you’re husband in 38 days half a face is AWESOME!11406690_764100967040646_5152479997968736491_o

1/3 of the way there!

This Sunday marked a third of the way through training (as well as the longest D and I have ever been apart since we first met).  Last week D’s learned how to fight fires, repair a sinking ship, and scored a 90 on his weapons and engineering final.  They also had another strengths test – D improved his scores, but he was already at the level he needs to be on his final strengths test so no worries there.  His days now consist mostly of attempting to stay awake in class and doing lots of rifle drill (as well as RPT when they screw up).  They had a room inspection last week and he and his roommate were the only ones that passed (he attributed the success to his roommates cleaning skills), but another one this week where he said their bed folds did them in.  These room checks are basically just another chance for them to get RPT’d.  D is super excited for their drill competition this Thursday, only for the fact that after its over they’ll be done with rifle drill.  They don’t actually compete against anyone, they just get scored but if they do well they can get a “streamer” and if they collect enough they’ll be considered an honor class.  They already earned one from their RLP inspection.  He also started his Naval Orientation and Warfare class and Naval History Class.  I wish I could be a fly on the wall in his orientation class because it’s all stuff I need to know too! Speaking of insects,  D shared this story with me:

“We were doing drill and then all of a sudden a bunch of people starting showing up from other classes, other staff, and just a bunch of other people. One of the class chiefs got a promotion to senior chief and they were doing the ceremony, so we all formed up and the short ceremony started. We were standing at attention with our rifles when I felt something crawling on my neck. It wasn’t big, but it was there and I knew it. Of course, here comes this little spider crawling across my face and onto my nose and then just wanders around there for a bit. Of course this was emcompassing all of my attention and he was not in a spot where I could get him off without moving or making a bunch of noise right in the middle of this ceremony. If I had moved, I would have been RPT’d for days……. so I didn’t. For about five minutes this little spider just crawled around in different directions all over my face; forehead, nose, cheeks, everywhere. Then finally he went on my upper lip and I blew him off with a short but stout gust of wind, and gone was the spider.”

I’m pretty sure I don’t have enough self-discipline to have survived this scenario haha.  As for me I’ve been enjoying pool season (minus our first few gloomy days of June), doing lots of yoga, attempting to paint, and working a lot.  Well here’s some pics of D from last week, I’m getting pretty good at finding his head shape amidst the clones.  (Oh and I’ve also added a page of acronyms in the main menu in case my posts ever get confusing!)

The first pictures are from their PFA.  There’s my little runner again! (Second from the left in this one)


D’s in the center with the big pole behind him.11206773_760677640716312_6574126060731148594_o

Pretty sure that’s D’s head doing pushups on the left10012033_760677410716335_1517019389659779167_o

D is doing sit-ups, 7th from the left


D’s in the front doing sit-ups11059436_760677440716332_5613248850517530429_o

That’s D in the middle11111916_760677860716290_3890506990256760245_o

The rest are just his class, repairing ships and fighting fires11063802_760677754049634_259769896055944557_o