I’ve always been inconsistent with journal writing, which is very much what this blogging stuff feels like. You’ll find gaps in every journal I own (well actually, you won’t, because those aren’t for your eyes). But it’s been much too long here. Unfortunately one of the reasons I haven’t written in awhile is because this blog is about our life in the military and for sometime now the military part of our life has been really hard. Not just hard, hard is manageable. I’m not sure what the word is for it. I think it’s pretty normal when your husband joins the military for it to become a part of your identity. Some wives avoid that, but I’ve embraced it and found pride in it. But there are also times when you have to step back and let it just be your husband’s job because at times it really sucks. It’s one of those times right now, so I’m not going to write about what’s going on in our lives now. But I will write about what’s happened since the last time I was on here, because my purpose was to connect with military families and share our experiences. So I want to do that – it may take time to catch up but I’ve got to start somewhere right?
Last time I was here D had just completed his first solo in primary flight training. He’s now in advanced training so obviously a lot has happened since. Today I’ll just share a few thoughts on primary. It took D about 6 months to complete primary. Several times when I told older retired men that my husband was in flight training, they would apologize. I get it now. It’s not easy on anyone. One of the toughest things about their training is that they don’t find out their schedule each day until the afternoon/night before. (Unfortunately this doesn’t change in advanced). It definitely makes it incredibly difficult on everyone even though you learn to adjust. I’ve become one of those people who a lot of times just doesn’t commit to things. Those people used to annoy me. Trust me, I wish I was not this way. I would love to have the next twenty years of my life planned, but I can’t tell you what we’re doing tomorrow. There is also a lot of ups and downs with how busy D is in flight school. Throughout primary he had weeks where he didn’t have anything and weeks where I went to bed by myself. Sure, I can create consistency in my life if I want, the military doesn’t run my schedule. But that’s only if I don’t really want to spend time with my husband, because he will without a doubt be scheduled for the most inopportune times – birthdays, valentine’s day – never fails. So you learn to adopt the go with the flow free spirit attitude. Or on days where you can’t do that, you’re just a wee bit angry and resentful 🙂 And you have backup plans. Backup dates. I have filled in for husbands on several dates and had wives fill in for mine. And our puppy regularly fills in as my nightly snuggle companion.
One of the things I don’t understand about primary is why in the world they have it in Pensacola, the no. 2 rainiest city in the country. It seems like things would be much more efficient if it was in someplace like Arizona? But of course efficiency and the government are antonyms 🙂 . I got to go “watch” D’s last solo (formation flying), which meant sitting in the instructors lounge for a LOOONG time while he flew and then having him walk me out to the plane when he was all done and show me around. Definitely different than watching solos in the civilian world! But it was still nice getting to be a part of it. Primary ends with selection, where they are assigned their specific aircraft, but that will be a post for another day. Can’t get too carried away today!
Me in all D’s flight gear. Its heavy!
All done with primary, a very happy day!